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NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

I am not sure as to how many of you have made New Year resolutions in the past, I certainly have. Did you stick to them? Did they work out for you? Invariably they don’t as time goes by they somehow seem to lose their importance to you.

To have a true resolution you have to think about it, and get it sorted in your head before you even start to commit to it. It is like setting an outcome or a milestone in your life – are these outcomes really what you want? How will you maintain your determination to achieve them? What will you do when you have achieved it?

I have heard people say that they wanted to lose some weight, as they want to look good on their beach holiday. They then set themselves a target to aim to lose 14lbs or 6.35kg. They then start to eat better, cut out certain foods, take more exercise. After a week or so they jump on the weighing scales and deflate themselves as they are nowhere near losing those 14lbs. They are setting themselves up for not reaching their goal – as self doubt creeps in and de-motivates them.

If you look at it in another way, 14lbs or 6.35kg is the target, when do they want to achieve that weight loss? Let’s say they start it on 1st of Jan 2017 and I want to be 14lbs/6.35kg lighter by the 30th of June – which is 6 months. So by doing the math 14lb over 6 months is 2.3lb or 1.06kg’s every month. Here in the UK a standard bag of white sugar is 2.2lb or 1kg, to some they will see an image of the bag of sugar and then start to think this task is not achievable.

A change of Mind Set is key at this point:-

Target by Month (6) = 14lbs is 2.2lbs or 1.06kg to lose per month

Target by Weeks (26) = 0.54lbs or 0.24kg to lose per week

Target by Days (181) = 0.08lbs per day or 0.04kg to lose per day

When looked at in this way, it is very achievable.

So by changing your Mind Set around your Outcome – makes your Outcome a very real possibility. 

Have a Great Day

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Motivated People

I am sure that you have come across motivated people in the past. They come from all walks of life and from all sectors. The one thing that they have in common, is that their motivation have been sparked by something.

That something is a connection with what they are doing and what is important to them. Sounds simple does it not – not so simple as we would all do it. We have people in industry who are motivated by climbing the corporate ladder. To get a better job and reap the rewards that those roles bring. However some of them are being motivated by what they think the company wants. Not necessarily in line with what that individual is truly motivated by.

They will give the appearance of being motivated by success, achievement and / or money. In truth they are individuals who are really motivated by people first – then money / achievement second. These are people to are tigers in the office – driven and can come across as quite rude or aggressive in the role they play for the company. Then when they go home, they give themselves a hard time about how they have treated the staff that day. This is an internal conflict – not good for anyone to have going on for them.

I am sure we can all put our hand in the air and say “Yes – I know someone like that”. The truth is they are operating out of what I call conditioned values or conditioned motivations. As I said before, they are acting this way – because they think that’s the way the company wants them to behave. rather than their own personal motivations.

This internal conflict can lead to stress, excess use of alcohol, short fuses and the like. These issues can be sorted by identifying the individuals motivations first and then align them with the company’s. This way the person concerned knows where the boundary’s are – making a calmer more motivated employee.

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